This is something I didnt do with my older two but as my wonderful next door tells me things change with your 3rd
However it seems that Daniel prefers it
I dont know why I made a barrier for his room (see previous post) he cried and cried until he was bright red in the face and thirsty as the first night and last night I didnt even make him go to his bed
So we are cosleeping and we even slept in this morning
This is what I found in my email box this morning from Muzz
nappies and wipes
a few toys that will keep him occupied
a book he can read (hes only 21 months!!!)
(books that needs to be returned to library) (already checked and dont need returning yet!!)
portable bottle he uses in car
Jesse (this is his soft toy for those lovely readers)
High chair for his dinner (he has a highchair at Muzz’s already)
spoon the yellow one
Think thats it
Whod have thought Id been a Mum for 14 years??? I mean dont I know what to pack for an overnight stay??? Havent I done it for 3 children heaps of times over the years???
Gotta bless Muzz for being such a good daddy. Gotta be grateful that he cares so much for my boys. Gotta be thanful that he wants to have time with the boys after all Billys dad doesnt. His dad never had any idea what to do with toddlers or babies.
But really . . .
2,996 is all about honouring the victims of 9/11. I took part last year. I intend to do it again this year. I see this as important and intend to honour a different victim this year. So many innocent lives were lost that day. On September 11, volunteer bloggers will unite to pay tributes to the victims of 9/11. “We will honour them by remembering their lives, and not by remembering their murderers.” (Dale Challener Roe). Dale the founder of this tribute is a writer and his blog can be found here
The tributes should commemorate the lives of these people. Over the previous 6 years we’ve heard the names of the murderers, and all about how it happened. This is a opportunity to find out and honour those who died. “Forget the murderers, they don’t deserve to be remembered.” (Dale Challener Roe) But the innocent victims who died that day do deserve to be remembered. There were 2,996 people that died because of this awful event. Join me in remembering them.
Simply go here and learn how you can join me and many others in remembering these people. They do deserve to be remembered.
Im not a winter person. I prefer to be warm. I love the sun. I dont like having to rush out to the car, open it as quickly as I can and getting
soaked wet no matter how fast I am. Might be slightly better if we had a garage but even then Id have to open the door (of the garage). I dont like not being able to get my washing dry either. However, it could be worst. If I lived in other parts of the Hawkes Bay I could be having to cope with this. I could be stranded in my house as Muzz is. Or even worse I could be facing my house or car being flooded.
Over the last couple of days in particular but longer than that altogether the rain has poured and poured and poured some more. I woke up yesterday morning and looked out my kitchen window there were HUGE puddles in my driveway I just knew there were floods somewhere close. Then I turned on the internet and the TV and sure enough I was right. I longed for the Bay I thought I had moved to the sunny Hawkes Bay. May the sun shine again real soon and I am waiting eagerly for the summer to return to us. I am not a winter person.
more rain look at the gallery here on this page too
and pray for those effected.
I first published my thoughts and feelings about this last week. However, as it was part of a much wider and bigger post I am uncertain how many people saw it and I would like your feedback.
One of my bloggie friends wrote “I can think of many times when I have withheld punishment on my own children in public because of what I thought others would think of me”
As I pointed out to her she is a good mum. I think we are forced to sometimes withhold punishment. I feel we are drawn to do this because of the way the government makes the laws. And how busy bodies feel it is their duty to interfere with a “normal” parent/child interaction. These busy bodies could even be our own children. Whom are resentful for the way they have been parented.
I don’t feel it is right that governments should dictate how we parent our children. Most parents love caring and sensitive to their children’s well being but we are put in a position of being scared about what we can and cannot do because of the law of the land.
I know only too well how our reputations can get tarnished in a blink of an eye. We can be accused of not parenting our children the way some people think we should far too easily and quickly. There has been some discussion over the fact that by correcting our children in public we may be drawing a spectacle of ourselves or them. I don’t think that correcting our children in public however is making a spectacle. If anything it would be our children that would be doing that. They would getting punished because of throwing a patty, or committing a misdemeanor. These activities can not usually be done in a quiet way by a toddler or child. While I do believe in correcting children when they misbehave I also firmly do not believe in shaming children in public. All that does is humiliate them and that teaches them nothing at all. I feel that what should be done is the child should be taken somewhere private and dealt with immediately.
I think with the government (talking about the New Zealand government as I don’t know much about other countries ones) and their laws regarding what a parent is allowed and not allowed to do with their children causes a lot of us to now raise our children in fear. We should be allowed to punish our own children (within reasonable limits) as we see fit. As an aside note it does grieve me to read and hear about some people (whom shouldn’t be parents) abuse their children. But the normal parent wouldn’t do that yet we can’t punish our children without being fearful of the consequences. If we are viewed to be over stepping the mark and may I add is there even a mark these days then we could face our children being taken away from us. In New Zealand even time out is viewed as kidnapping.
However, I fear this will all lead to a generation that have no respect for their elders. To a generation that are not well-behaved and have no self-control. Contrary to what some people believe (even ministers) I do believe that God expects us to punish and correct our children when they misbehave. God’s word says “Spare the rod and spoil the child,” the rod can be an actual smack or our rods of suitable punishment. But it comes back to the original statement can we actually do this because of the way we may be viewed by others???
I do not think that punishing our children in public is “airing ones laundry.” I think that if a child is misbehaving anywhere the parent should have the right to punish and correct that child right there and then. This does not mean I would smack my child in a shop but even taking it to a more private place in a public place may be seen as incorrect. However, for some children to “wait until you get home” lessens the impact of what they have done. And I for one will not stand aside while my child misbehaves. To do so only asks for more trouble. God corrects us because He loves us. I love my children therefore I punish and correct them when they do wrong. But deep within me is that fear of how it may be viewed. What the consequences may be (to my family and I) if I simply correct my child in a public place. Any place really if someone views how I am raising my children as not correct in their eyes.
What do you think and feel about this???
tagged me for a “Personal Policies Meme,” asking about “not moral rules, like ”Do Not Kill,’ I’m talking about the silly policies we impose on ourselves, like ‘Never eat anything you can’t identify,’ or ‘Don’t step on sidewalk cracks.’
1. I like to use the left hand side of my kitchen bench for dirty dishes and I dont like it when people put dirty dishes on the other side.
2. I have to have complete quietness to be able to read. Id love to be able to read anywhere but I cant. It has to be quiet.
3. If one fingernail breaks, I bite the rest of them, so they are even. Hence I can never grow my fingernails for very long.
4. I use capital letters when referring to God. I think I was told one should do this by my bible in schools teacher at primary school. I guess you could say it’s become a “policy” of sorts. When referring to God as “Him” or “He”…I always capitalize it. Always. I just feel it’s important
5. I try to leave 30 minutes before I have if Im going somewhere important. Even if I know it wont take that long to get there. I dont like being late and would prefer to be early.
6. I have a morning chore list which (I made for the kids years ago) I have to follow it every morning and if im away from home I have to mentally go through this list to make sure ive done everything. Before I made this chart for the kids I had a list of things I had to do myself (even when I was a teenager)
Yesterday when I came home from grocey shopping a lady came up to me. She was doing a survey for the New Zealand health department. As it was so WINDY I allowed her to do her survey in the house. She interviewed me then took my height and weight and measured me around my waist. I have always been proud to be tall 5foot 7 but i felt embarrassed to be standing on the weighing machine.
I have always said its whats inside a person that matters. Their personality. I have told some of my bloggie frioends that too and i did mean it. however when i looked today on several internet sites it seems i am about 23 LBS overweight. i have never been on a diet. I live a rather sediate lifestyle. I gave up walking last year. I like food. Im thinking that if i continue as i am i may get even bigger. I feel a bit down now.
The other thing ive been thinking about today is the fact that i have to go to Auckland on Tuesday. For the day. I have to be a key witness in a court case. Im a bit nervous about this. I have to tell my story to 12 people (the jury) i dont know.
Today I was blog visiting and came across a great FREE photo album on line. The reason I started this particular blog was because my photo quota was full for my old blog. By using this photo album I wont need to change blogs again. Neat A!!!
click on the above box to link
I invite you to go and have a look
There’s only the photos of the family and I at the moment but I will inform you when there are more photos to look at 🙂
thanks to some inspiration and a photo album I found and hope to scan soon
I have started writing in my other blog
The Chronicles of a New Zealander
This is a blog I started some time ago but havent been writing in much. Im going to try to write more regularly in it now. Prayer Warrior, however, is still my MAIN BLOG. The other one, The Chronicles of a New Zealander, Jenz Chronciles is my life story starting with baby and childhood. My father and cousin are into genelogy and I suppose some of that has rubbed off onto me. I have a tape of my Grandfather speaking about his life and so as Im sure you will agree, especially Val, its good to write these things out for future generations to read.